Making Up With Your Ex Lover

You Must Stop Meeting The Other Woman

Posted by LA Hunter on December 3rd, 2010

One of the worst relationship issues, and one that causes an awful lot of damage to everyone concerned, is that of infidelity. When you have been unfaithful to someone whether it’s your girlfriend or a casual acquaintance, you are pointing out to everyone involved that you are thoughtless and irresponsible. And if want to settle the issue, then the only logical thing to do is terminate the relationship and pay attention to your true love. The problem is, the other woman may truly care for you and you will cause her pain too, so be mindful of how you go about settling the affair with the other woman.

The first task that you must do is speak to the other woman and tell her the truth. If you’ve been dishonest with her and she wasn’t even aware you were in another relationship, you will certainly have a lot of explaining to do. You will most certainly give her so much heartache, however carrying on with the affair is only going to make matters worse. Just be as nice as you can, but make her understand in no uncertain terms that you’re done and you don’t wish to see her again.

If you were honest from the beginning and let the other woman know about your permanent involvement with someone else, putting an end to your affair with her will be less difficult. At the very least you have been honest with her, so just end the relationship without any fuss.

If you want your marriage, or your relationship with your girlfriend to last you will need to be true to her from now on, so once you have ended your affair, put the other woman out of your mind and never contact her again. Fantasies about a pin up model are one thing, but if you’re still thinking about your lover then you haven’t really ended the affair.

Make sure you throw her phone number out and delete her e-mail address and all the messages and texts that have passed between you both. If you’ve received gifts or keepsakes, discard these too. You have to make a fresh start and you can’t do that if you’re still holding on to memories of your mistress.

If the other woman is someone you met at work, you will probably encounter her on a regular basis, so it is even more essential that you make her understand that everything is over. Don’t keep her on a loose leash just to appease your own ego. Inform her that it’s over and follow up the words with definite actions. If you both used to eat together during your lunch hour, find ways to have your lunch at a different time or don’t go to the same places where you used to meet her. Change your schedule so that you can avoid her as much as possible. By doing so, you are showing to her by your actions as well as your words that it truly is over for good.

Generally speaking, when a woman knowingly gets herself romantically involved with a married guy, she has a few ethical standards that need to be addressed. The most important thing is that you are the person who promised to be faithful to your partner, and you are the same person who did not fulfill that promise. It’s your primary task to right things and the best way to do that is to end the affair with the other woman and totally commit yourself to your partner.

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